When I started my business I focused on coaching clients on creating their vision boards, setting goals and aligning with their personal values. The patterns I began to see where that the clients were had enthusiasm for what they wanted to achieve, however, they needed to have a shift in their mindset to make the changes in order for them to achieve their desired outcomes and goals.
The clients were held back from what they wanted to achieve by self-doubt, fear, perfectionism, lack of self-worth, or a need to forgive. This is habitual behaviour which can be changed to work in our favour.
The restorative shift has to happen before change can take place in our habitual behaviour. This shift is to do with the three stages in the change process. The first stage is being aware of the habitual ways which are keeping us from change. We can develop our self-awareness to do this. We need to then go through the second stage before reaching the third stage.
The second stage is to do with opening up to what the you need to do to achieve your desired outcome or goal and asking for help from others if needed. We all have our limitations which we need to recognise.
Switching into a calm state of mind will bring the innovative and creative mindset into play as we let go of what we cannot control. Mindfulness is a powerful way to do this through relaxation techniques and avoiding distractions.
The third stage is surrendering to this release of tension into a relaxed state. Letting go of the things holding us back causing us to remain 'stuck', is where the positive shift happens. This process of letting go can only happen when we realise what it is that is holding us back and how we can take charge of how we respond to it. This could be a release of self-limiting beliefs or it could be about forgiveness when perhaps someone has wronged us in the past. It could be a lack of self-worth or fear of failure because we are concerned about what other people think of us or how we perform at work for example.
These are all barriers causing us to feel 'stuck'. Only the restorative state where we surrender in letting go, can bring about change.
I help corporate executive women to be more influential during emotion-charged situations by developing their emotional competence to respond constructively.
I have worked within various teams and organisations in previous roles including leadership. These experiences have given me the insights into the challenges leaders face during emotion-charged situations at work. I observed many situations where emotional competence would have resolved the issues through constructive responses. However the skills in reading, conveying and managing emotional responses of self and others were overlooked and often resulted in conflict, job dissatisfaction, lack of motivation and low team morale. My personal mission is to help leaders to develop the skills in emotional competence to enable them to be more influential during emotion-charged situations by responding constructively. I feel this will enable workplace well-being to thrive.